Do We Allow External Energy Influence Our Internal Energy?
By Debbie Olson
There was an instance at the gym not too long ago and it has been on my mind ever since. I discussed this with the member and we shared opinions on it. I think it is important to share as I am sure this has happened to at least one of you either inside or outside of the gym. It also gave me some time to self reflect to see how I can make this better in the future. I was so happy for this experience and I know that this is going to take a lot of time to practice and implement into every day life.
So, what exactly happened? There was a group of us training together and it was a particular workout that everyone knew was going to be challenging. For those of you that don’t have handstand walks and just the thought of being upside down turns your stomach will understand! It is just something you do NOT want to do, but try it anyway because coach tells you to! You think of every worst case scenario in your head and begin to sweat and feel sick. I think all of us has had that feeling at some point in our training. On top of that, when you watch the class before yours finishing up the workout, it makes you rethink WHY you are even there in the first place. Mindset is everything. After mindset, we tend to carry out exactly how we visualized it in the beginning. Thinking it is going to be a pretty bad workout? Well, you just made it that much worse in your mind, so now get ready to really feel it! Sometimes, it is the opposite; we feel good and even though we know it is going to be challenging, we are willing to tackle it; if we fail then we fail. Anyway, back to the experience. During the middle of the workout, the group was huffing and puffing and complaining how hard it was. When we approached the challenging handstand walks, it was yelled from across the room, “this is terrible and impossible!” This external factor got to me. I allowed someone else’s negative approach impact my outlook on the workout, which absolutely affected performance. I was angry. I was upset. At first, I was angry at the member. Why would you scream this as you know it is not going to benefit anyone else around you? After the cap hit and we all fell in defeat, we talked about what happened. I was angry that the negative energy came out so aggressively from the external. But then I realized something. I was more angry that I allowed this external energy to completely consume my thoughts and further impact my performance. How can I be mad at someone else for their outlook or opinion? Furthermore, how can I let someone else’s energy impact my future? It seems like a silly thing to stress over it as it is just a workout. But, it was more than that. I was so grateful for this experience as it truly allowed me to sit back and self reflect on things not only with training, but in life.
Do we let external energy dictate our own outcome? If someone is having a bad day and can not stop focusing on the glass being half empty, do we use that as an excuse for us to look at it the same? We can not control other people’s emotions and behaviors. There are too many unique experiences and personalities out there to be able to control. All we can control is how we react to this energy and focus on what is important to us.
I am sure you all want to hear about a better topic than this. “Coach Deb, I just want to know what I have to do to get my first handstand push up or to lose those last stubborn five pounds!” Unfortunately, there is no secret formula. It is hard work and consistency. This topic, however, can be transferable to ANY part of our lives. With nutrition, for instance, I will give an example. Your best friend is not as concerned about their health as you are. You go out to eat and they just want the worst thing possible on the menu! They justify this by saying that they deserve it and that YOU deserve it. “Come on, have it, you deserve it, you know you want to!” Do you let this external energy influence your reaction and internal thinking? There is a big difference between something that YOU want and something that someone else wants for you (usually because they want it themselves!). By no means am I saying to never indulge in something. I am saying, however, that you have it or do it because YOU want to. You are in control of your own thoughts, behaviors, and actions.
I think this is something we all need to practice and be aware of. I was so grateful for the eye opening experience at the gym as it truly opened my eyes to behavioral and emotional patterns or habits within myself. This is not something that can just go away, but it is something to be mindful of in the future. I hope all of you think about what it is that you truly want or want to accomplish both inside and outside the gym. Do not let others impact your performance or attitude on something if it is not what you envision.
See you at the gym!